1 |You Are Beautiful
In your eyes, your mother is the most beautiful person you have ever seen. It’s not just her outward beauty, but her inner beauty that captivates you. You will always strive to be more like her, even when you are an adult because as she ages her beauty becomes more radiant, like the sun that shines brighter and brighter as it rises.
You will look in the mirror and feel beautiful, but when people talk about your appearance, or when you see other girls you will compare yourself to them and as a result second guess your own beauty. Don’t compare yourself to them or let their comments shake your confidence. You are your own person with a beauty that’s unique to you. Others may not recognize it, but it will always be there and nothing can change it, not even your perception of yourself.
Others will tell you that you are beautiful but you won’t believe it. In your heart you will wonder what it is they truly see. Look in the mirror and SEE yourself. See the beauty that resides in your heart. See the empathy, resilience, and kindness that dwells within you. See your eyes, your face, your body in a loving way. Learn to love and appreciate yourself – flaws, imperfections, and all. You ARE beautiful!
2 | Cherish the Time You Have With Your Family
You’ve been through so much together, and it has made you very close. You know each other so well, and are comfortable being yourself around them. Cherish the time you have with them. The tear producing laughter, movie nights, water fights, good food, and just talking is your foundation for what family should be.
You don’t realize it now, but you won’t always be together. Although you get on each other’s last nerves sometimes, forget the fights and ditch the anger. As you grow up you will separate, and spend less time together. You’ll miss the times you shared singing in the car on the way to the movies, or dancing in the living room late at night to Bob Marley and Earth, Wind, and Fire.
As you grow, don’t forget them. You will always be connected. You will ALWAYS love each other. Spend time with them, and don’t take it for granted.
3 | Don’t Take it Personally
People WILL treat you badly and do you dirty over and over again. You will be betrayed by “friends” and hated by enemies, for reasons you will never understand but will still try to figure out. You will be crushed by crushes and mistreated by those who don’t even know you (but think they do). You will be left out and ignored over and over again.
Sometimes you will take it personally, and feel like there’s something wrong with you. What you don’t know yet is that most of the time the way people treat you says more about them than it does about you! So don’t take it personally, just keep it moving!
4 | Talk to Someone
Life gets hard. I mean REALLY hard. Sometimes it will seem to be too hard for you to handle on your own, and when that happens you’ll need help. Don’t try to carry the weight of your heavy world on your shoulders. You don’t have to do that. Truthfully, you can’t do that. It’s not even possible. There are people who love you and want the best for you. When they reach out to you, don’t pull away. Don’t pretend. When no one reaches out to you, reach out yourself.
There are some tears you don’t have to cry. It’s ok to get help. It doesn’t make you weak, it frees you from weight!
5 |Don’t Try to Grow Up Too Fast
You want to be grown but you don’t realize how precious and short your time as a young person is. Enjoy it! Have fun. You will be grown for the rest of your life. You’re only young once.
Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.
Just because “everyone else” is doing it, doesn’t mean you should do it too – even if you’re curious.
Yes, you can do what everyone else is doing, even if it’s not legal. Smoking, drinking, cussing, having sex, going out all the time….you CAN do all of those things, but it doesn’t mean you should.
Having a boyfriend is nice, and fun too but if you’re single, that’s ok too. Don’t stress out about it. Don’t rush it. Don’t try to force it. Everything will happen when it’s time for it to happen.
6 |Take Care of Yourself
You only have one body. You only have one life. You are not invincible. You can’t get away with what you think you have control of. Take care of yourself. Eat right, sleep well, don’t get lazy and think you don’t need exercise. You do. Your body will thank you – but if you are reckless, you will pay a high price.
7 |It’s ok to be Different
The popular quote “why fit in when you were born to stand out”, is very true of you. You are not like everyone else, and that’s ok. Stand out, because you are unique. You’re not weird, or dysfunctional, you are unique. Unique is good, not weird.