We all desire to be outwardly beautiful. That’s one of the reasons why the average girl spends lots of time and money on hair, makeup, and clothes. We want to make sure we look good at all times. The media is filled with images of women who look perfect, even though sometimes the images have been altered using technology.
Perfection becomes our goal too. We want to be what we see, even though what we see isn’t always real.
Girls are good at complimenting each other. Telling another girl “you look cute, “I like your hair”, or that “color looks good on you” can brighten any girl’s day and bring a smile to her face. Giving someone else a genuine compliment also makes you feel good too, because you encouraged them.
Some of us are good at complimenting everyone else, but when it comes to ourselves it’s a different story.
We appreciate everyone else’s beauty but find it hard to love our own. When you think about it, we look at others more than we look at ourselves. We look in the mirror when we’re getting ready in the morning or at night, and a few brief times during the day, but for the most part our eyes are not on ourselves.
Sometimes when we do look at ourselves, we scrutinize what we see and say things like “I don’t like my legs, my forehead is too big, or “I’m too fat/skinny”. We carefully examine our entire body and pick ourselves apart like we’re dissecting a frog in science class. We look at others with admiration while looking at ourselves in disgust.
Do not dissect a rainbow. In other words, do not destroy a beautiful phenomenon by overanalyzing it. – Denise LaFrance
So many of us are guilty of loving others but secretly hating ourselves. Complimenting others and criticizing ourselves. Wishing we were perfect, although we know no one is. Hoping we can stop hating who we are, flaws and all, and love ourselves totally, especially the things that make us so unique.
Learn to appreciate your own beauty. Learn to love who you are. Take a moment and look at yourself in the mirror. Not with a critical eye, you are not inspecting anything. There’s nothing about you that you have to grade to see if it makes the cut. Instead, look at yourself and appreciate what you see. Compliment yourself just as you would someone else. Think about the compliments other’s give you, and believe them.
There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty. – Steve Maraboli
Look at your eyes, your smile, your shape, and your complexion. Say good things about each part of you, even the parts that are flawed or not quite the way you would have designed them to be. Keep appreciating yourself until you fully believe that you are beautiful, because you are. Most importantly, look at your heart, and see the beauty that God has created you to be.
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! It is amazing to think about. Your workmanship is marvelous—and how well I know it. – Psalm 139:14 TLB
What are some of the compliments about your beauty that people give you? Do you believe them? Why or why not?
Are you guilty of dissecting yourself like a frog when you look in the mirror? What are the parts of you that you find hard to love?
How can you learn to love the parts of you that you believe are flawed?
What are some of the things that you like about your physical beauty?