Having the approval of others is really important to us. After all, everyone wants to be accepted. Everyone wants to fit in. We all want to belong and be a part of the popular crowd. These days, with social media it’s so easy to get trapped into fighting for the approval of others, and it can be a very dangerous game.
We upload pictures, videos, and go live to see what kind of response we’re gonna get. We check our pages every 5 minutes after uploading a selfie to see how many people liked it, or commented on it. We wanna know what they’re saying and who’s responding. If we don’t get as many likes as those we’re comparing ourselves to, we get jealous. We do things that are out of character for us, like showing off our bodies or participating in viral challenges so that we can be popular. We tag our photos to the max, so that anyone and everyone can discover us. We offer our phone numbers and give too much of our personal information to strangers so that we can get what we want….approval.
There’s nothing wrong with having fun online. There’s nothing wrong with meeting new people, connecting with friends, having conversations, and sharing your pictures, videos, and life.
It gets dangerous when you’re sharing for all of the wrong reasons.
It’s dangerous when you’re depending on likes so that you can feel good about yourself, or when you secretly hate or criticize yourself when you don’t get as many likes or comments as you wanted. It’s not good to measure your success based upon how other people respond to what you post. You matter. Period. You are somebody if you get 700 likes. You are somebody if you get 9 likes. You are valuable, and your value doesn’t come from the opinions or acceptance of others.
Sure, having a bunch of followers feels good, but if your self esteem is based on that, they have the power to take it away from you. You’ve got to know how valuable and special you are. Once you realize that, no one will able to take that away from you.
It’s dangerous when you get stressed out trying to figure out the best way to please everybody so that you can get the approval and popularity that you crave. You shouldn’t be consumed with fighting for everyone’s acceptance. Giving yourself a headache trying to figure out how you can get more followers, subscribers, and likes isn’t worth it – especially if it’s really starting to bother you. No need to obsess and get overly anxious about it. Just have fun and be yourself. If you’re meant to go viral, you will. If not, don’t worry about it. Don’t focus so much on trying to win everybody over. You can’t win them all, and that’s ok. Think about those who genuinely like you for who you are, and focus on connecting with them.
It’s dangerous when you do dangerous things to try to impress others. Most of us will watch a video or look at a post for a few seconds. After that, we move on. Every challenge isn’t meant for you, even when you know you can do it well. What if you drop the knife? What if you have an allergic reaction? What if a sex offender finds out where you are and comes after you? Don’t place yourself in harms way just for a few seconds of internet fame. It isn’t worth it.
Love who you are. Be confident in your gifts and talents, and let your confidence be deeply rooted. Spend some time exploring who you are. Be your own best friend. When you share, do it safely and genuinely. Don’t let the likes define you. Don’t let them drive you. Take the wheel, and have fun.