Cliques are everywhere. You know what I’m talking about, right? The groups of friends that are always together. They have so much in common, and become known for what kind of image they have. There’s the popular girls, the athletes, the goodie-two-shoes, the comedians, the tomboys, the nerds, the ghetto girls, the bad girls, the bougie girls. We’ve seen them all and so many more.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with hanging out with people who are a lot like you. I mean, we all are naturally drawn to people who like the stuff that we like. Friendships are just so much easier that way.
There are so many different groups of people you can hang out with. Trying to choose can be really hard and frustrating. You’re trying to figure out who you are and where you belong.
It’s especially hard trying to get into a clique, because cliques can be very closed off, exclusive, and unwelcoming.
I wish I could tell you that once you grow up cliques won’t be a problem, but that’s not true. It doesn’t stop. The adult world is full of cliques too.
If you’ve ever been in a popular clique, it makes you feel good. You feel accepted. You feel like you’re somebody. You don’t have to worry about feeling left out because you made the cut, but when you’re not a part of the popular clique, it makes you feel rejected. It makes you feel like you’re not important. It makes you feel like you’re not good enough and it makes you question yourself wondering what you did wrong or what is it about you that made you get rejected – especially if you’ve tried over and over to try to be accepted. You did your best to connect with them but after all you did they still don’t call or text you, invite you to their parties, or hang out with you at school. To make matters worse, they may even be talking about you instead. It stings.
We’ve all been rejected at some point in our lives. All of us. Even the most popular girls you know. If you’re being rejected by a group of people, you are not alone.
If you’re the loner, guess what? You are still good enough! If you’re the black sheep, you’re still important. If you’re the outcast, you’re still valuable.
If they rejected you, it doesn’t mean that something’s wrong with you; it just means those are not the friends for you. They do not define who you are, God does – so don’t let how they treated you make you hate yourself.
Also, they aren’t the only potential friends you have. The world is FULL of people that you can be friends with. If you’ve been rejected from their tribe, move on because there’s something better for you.
Just because they didn’t accept you, that doesn’t mean that you’re never going to have any friends, because you are.
Don’t give up. Keep trying. Just keep being yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone that you’re not just so that you can have someone to hang out with.
If you just keep being you, keep being friendly, and being open to new friendships you will find the perfect fit. It may take some time but eventually it will be worth it and you may actually be glad that you’re not a part of the clique that you thought you wanted to be in.
1 | Have you ever been a part of the popular crowd? If so, how did it make you feel?
2 | Have you ever tried really hard to fit in with a clique but got rejected?
3 | Have you ever questioned or hated yourself after being rejected, feeling like it was because you did or said something wrong, or felt like there was something wrong with you? If so, how will you respond in the future if the same thing happens again?
4 | Why do you think it’s important to be yourself when you’re trying to make new friends?