Friendship is an important part of our lives. To have real, meaningful friends is a blessing that many people take for granted. It’s not always easy to make friends, but once we make a true friend, that person makes our life just a little bit brighter. Here are a few qualities of true friends:
There are some people in life that make you laugh a little louder, smile a little bigger and live just a little better – Unknown
- | COMMON INTERESTS
“Friendship is about finding people who are your kind of crazy.” Unknown
A true friendship is built on common interests. When you have a lot in common with someone, it’s easy to be friends with them. Conversations flow and they don’t feel forced. You enjoy the same things. You have some of the same hobbies and goals. You have fun together.
Friendship is born at the moment when one man says to another “What! You too? I thought that no one but myself…” – C.S. Lewis
- | LOYAL
Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family. – Proverbs 18:24 MSG
True friends are loyal to you. They’re on your side, and on your team. If you have a friend who is cool with you but when their other friends come around, they don’t know you all of a sudden, or they treat you differently when they’re around certain people – that’s not loyal, that’s two-faced. You deserve better than that. If they can’t be your friend all the time, they don’t deserve to be your friend at all.
- | SUPPORTIVE
“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out”. – Unknown
True friends support you in life. They want you to be happy. They want you to do your best, achieve your goals, and reach for the stars. They motivate you, just like you motivate them. True friends don’t become jealous when you outshine them, they celebrate you instead because you would do the same for them. They’re your cheerleaders and some of your biggest fans.
When you’re going through a rough time in your life, true friends are there for you. You can call them when you need someone to talk to, even if it’s in the middle of the night. When you have a true friend you have a shoulder to cry on, someone to vent to, and advice from someone who really cares.
- | A GOOD LISTENER
“Listen and silent are spelled with the same letters. Think about it. – Unknown
A true friend is a good listener. They don’t always cut you off because they have so much to say. They’re not too busy to hear you out. They let you talk, even during the times when they don’t really agree with you. They aren’t quick to argue, and always try to be honest with you.
A good listening friend hears more than what you say. They can tell certain things about you even if you don’t talk at all. They know when something’s on your mind, when you’re angry, or when you’re having a bad day.
- | TRUSTWORTHY
“Don’t blame yourself for trusting them. Shame on them for taking advantage of it. – Unknown
You don’t have to watch what you say around a true friend, because you can trust them. True friends don’t listen to you and then go and tell all of your business to other people. Trustworthy friends know how to keep secrets (unless you or someone else is in danger of course).
True friends don’t talk about you behind your back, and real talk – they don’t gossip about others either. If they do, trust and believe that they’re sure to gossip about you too, so run. If you don’t have anything to talk about except other people, you don’t really have a friendship at all.
- | SELFLESS
“One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and be understood.” – Lucius Annaeus Seneca
When a friendship is mutual, it’s meaningful. They should care as much about you as you care about them. If a friend is always concerned about themselves but never concerned about you, that’s not right. If every phone conversation is always all about them, and they don’t even ask how you’re doing, something’s wrong. If you try to talk a little bit about you and they always make it about them, that’s a red flag.
Selfish friends only seem to call whenever they need something. They never need YOU, always what you have or what you can do for them. A selfless friend talks about themselves, but they want to talk about you too. They want to know how you’re doing. They call because they enjoy talking to you. They’re always around, not just when they need something.
- | DOESN’T PRESSURE YOU
A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow. -Unknown
A true friend is someone you can be yourself around. If someone is always trying to change you, trying to make you be what they want you to be and not who you are, it makes you feel uncomfortable. You end up always trying to please them, and no matter what you do, there’s always something else. Most peer pressure doesn’t even come from people who are outside of your circle, it’s from the ones closest to you – pressuring you to try things that you don’t really want to do. It’s like they’re not really friends with YOU, they’re trying to mold you to be someone they want to be friends with. If they can’t be friends with the real you, find someone who will.
I hope that your life is full of the best kind of friends. Friends who enhance your life. I also hope that you will be a true and loyal friend, and that your friends will say that you’re as much of a blessing to them as they are to you.
Stay tuned as we find out 7 traits of fake friends, coming up soon!