You see her all the time, but you don’t really know her. She’s in your class, on your team, or in your youth group. You may know her name, but nothing more. You see her at lunch, eating her pizza alone, because she doesn’t hang out with anyone. She puts her headphones in on the bus and listens to music as she shyly stares out of the window. She barely speaks in class or in the hallways, and doesn’t participate in school dances or pep rallies because she always goes straight home. The lonely girl.
Perhaps you know her. Perhaps you are her. Maybe you used to be her but now you have lots of friends. Whatever your story is, give the lonely girls a chance.
If you know her, try talking to her. Ask her to have lunch with you and your friends. Smile and wave at her when you pass her in the hallway. If you don’t have much in common with her, introduce her to someone who has the same interests as she does. Maybe she’s new to your school. Maybe she’s really shy. Maybe she just has a hard time making new friends. Let her know that you see her. She needs to know that she’s not invisible. She needs to know that someone cares so that she feels welcome and accepted, rather than alone and rejected.
If you are her, know that you are not alone. There are people who want to get to know you.
Keep reaching out and don’t give up. If you have given up, decide that you are going to keep trying. Smile, talk to others, and be friendly. Let people get to know the amazing person that you are. Even when you get rejected and ignored, realize within yourself that you are worth knowing because you are special!
You are important, and you deserve the absolute best when it comes to friendships.
When nobody sits with you, says hi to you, or invites you to hang out, you’ve gotta know in your heart that you are still worth it. Oh, and while you’re waiting and trying, it’s ok to hang out with yourself. Be your own best friend. Being alone gives you a chance to know yourself more, and that’s always a good thing!
If you used to be her, do for someone else what you wish someone would have done for you when you were lonely. When you notice a lonely girl, reach out. Smile. Share your story if you feel comfortable. Encourage her and let her know that brighter days are ahead. Who knows, maybe in your encouragement you’ll find a new best friend.
Lonely girls seem closed-off, uninterested, and a bit shy sometimes, but once you get to know them they open up like big, beautiful flowers. You never know how fun, smart, funny, and cool a lonely girl is until you get to know her.
Do you know a lonely girl that you can reach out to? If so, how can you reach out to her?
Have you been the lonely girl? What’s your story?
Do you feel that social media creates more lonely girls? If so, how?